The Classroom
We’re all aware that lingering trauma can start with adverse childhood events like sexual abuse, domestic violence, neglect, disasters, deaths, etc.
But what about the little 3rd grade boy who has to go up to the front of the class and read from a book and is so afraid because he knows that when he’s nervous he stutters. But, he goes up anyway, because he has to. He speaks and stutters and the kids in the class giggle.
Each time he has to go up there his anxiety gets worse and so does his stuttering. Imagine the day when he’s so afraid that he wets his pants while standing up there. Now the kids who were giggling before are roaring with laughter. The little boy is mortified.
He spends the following years trying to do what teachers want, but he can’t to speak up in the classroom and his grades suffer. The shame he feels turns in on himself in the belief that he’s dumb, unworthy, less than. His school work continues to suffer. The boy starts to miss school.
Eventually he drops out of school and the downward cycle continues.
The humiliation he started to experience as a 3rd grader can linger for decades if the little boy was never able to resolve what happened. Over the years his memory wanes, he doesn’t remember the humiliating incident, but he never forgets that he’s dumb, unworthy, less than and it gets in the way of so many things. He may not remember that horrible incident, but his mind is always going to be on the alert for extreme discomfort anytime he has to speak.
The point of this writing is to raise awareness to the fact that we can be traumatized by events that other people find hilarious, especially when we’re children and lack the coping mechanisms or social support we need. Even adults can develop a severe negative self-image in humiliating experiences.
I’m writing this is to let people who experience anxiety know that there are solutions.
There are sources of the anxiety. We don’t have to carry the burdens. You likely don’t remember all the details, if any. The mind is very good at hiding events from us, shielding us from the memory. But, the pain surfaces in unexpected ways – harmful/hurtful relationships, lack of ambition, substance abuse and/or eating disorders, etc.
Through coaching and NLP in Hypnosis, I guide your mind into releasing its memories in a quick and minimally painful manner.
Together we teach your incredibly helpful brain that everything is ok and that it doesn’t have to work so hard to protect you.
Imagine not being triggered because the triggers will be gone.
Imagine not having to work so hard to suppress the feelings that cause you so much anxiety.
Imagine how freeing that’ll be when your brain can focus on growth and joy.
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