Ever wonder why you yawn during deep emotional moments? It's not boredom—it's your body signaling profound shifts, especially during trauma recovery. Discover how yawning helps transition your brain from tension to relaxation, and how it reflects deep work in your nervous system.

Recognizing unconscious patterns developed from past experiences can greatly impact our daily lives. These ingrained behaviors often stem from childhood and can dictate our emotional and psychological responses as adults, sometimes in ways that no longer serve our current needs.

"Your Mind Behind the Curtain" offers a behind-the-scenes look at how I leverage NLP and hypnosis to catalyze change. Discover my approach to unlocking your unconscious, reshaping your experiences, and steering towards your fullest potential.

Explore the transformative journey of overcoming low self-esteem, guided by the concept of mindful debugging. Uncover the power of self-guided experiences through purposeful workbooks designed for personal growth. Discover tangible benefits and witness the transformative process that leads to a more empowered and resilient self and ultimately raise your self-esteem!

The belief that "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" doesn't always hold true for trauma survivors. Trauma can lead to behaviors like excessive accommodation, tolerance of negativity, emotional clutter, quick forgiveness, and difficulty asserting oneself. Loved ones should encourage survivors to express needs, set boundaries, and be patient. Survivors may also face challenges in speaking up, excessive sensitivity, trust issues, and navigating relationships. The path to healing involves understanding these changes, fostering open communication, and providing support for a balanced and fulfilling life.

Our words shape our brains. Expressions like "I feel depressed" reinforce negativity. Discussing problems offers temporary relief but often leads to frustration and limited change. Positive affirmations benefit those with high self-esteem but may worsen negative beliefs for those with low self-esteem due to confirmation bias. Understanding how our brains interpret language, including sensory experiences, is crucial for lasting change and personal growth.

Embark on a journey of self-discovery and transformation as you explore the profound insights of hypnosis and the unconscious mind. Through these posts, unlock practical tools to accelerate your personal growth and understand yourself on a deeper level. Gain invaluable insights into how your subconscious influences your actions and learn to harness this power for positive change. Dive into the fascinating revelation that the brain reacts before conscious awareness, offering a new perspective on the mysteries of your mind.

As the strong, silent type and a devoted executive and family man, my dad dedicated himself to self-improvement and our family's well-being. He actively worked on his marriage and was a constant in our lives despite a demanding career. After his passing, I uncovered his deep-seated struggles through a letter about my childhood abuse. This revealed his inner conflict and regret for not protecting me more, shedding light on the complex emotional challenges men face in balancing societal strength with vulnerability. His journey deeply resonates with me, highlighting the intricate dance between masculinity and emotional openness.

Many parents avoid discussing sexual abuse prevention with kids, believing it won't happen or that kids will tell them. But statistics show 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys are victims before 18, mostly by people they know and trust. We must confront these misconceptions and normalize empowering, age-appropriate education on body safety and consent. Open communication dispels myths, keeps kids safe, and takes this issue out of the shadows. Here are 10 reasons why adults don’t talk about childhood sexual abuse.

Dive into the world of group healing and discover how our senses play a massive role in our experiences. Ever felt a story resonate so deeply you thought it was yours? This piece unpacks why that happens and how to navigate these sessions without getting lost. With personal insights from a seasoned facilitator, you'll learn to harness the power of your senses for a more genuine healing journey.

In this blog post, I shine a spotlight on a critical message: The significance of listening to survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Join me as I emphasize the importance of providing survivors with a safe space to share their stories. By lending an empathetic ear and validating their experiences, we can help survivors heal and contribute to a more compassionate society.

This blog post explores two mindsets: "go-getter" (enthusiastic and goal-oriented - moving towards) and "avoider" (cautious and problem-focused - moving away from). Let’s talk about the importance of language patterns in shaping our reality and encourage a balanced communication style that considers both pursuing goals and addressing challenges.

Creating, welcoming, accepting communication is desperately needed as a foundation of being human - a healthy human. Survivors of childhood sexual abuse, rape, bullying, and abuse are all taught to keep their mouths shut. The perpetrators NEED our silence in order to survive. Because of the nature of abuse, we comply as best as we can. As a mom I was determined to protect my kids, and creating open communication was paramount in that. Here’s another step in my journey of Getting Past Survivor so my kids don’t have to.

Over the last few years I had resolved so many things but didn't recognize that there was a part of me that was still needing to be addressed, cleared, resolved, loved, and that was my 7-8 year old who had to leave Belgium, had to leave the life where she finally had her first friends, first real relationships.

What does hope mean to you? How does it show up in your life, in your healing journey? Do you have hope for yourself? I didn’t for a long time, even though I was determined to find it. And when I did find it, I found me.

People say it's not the destination, it's the journey. But when it comes to Getting Past Survivor, it truly is the destination.

You've put a huge amount of effort into healing yourself, but something still doesn't feel right.

Here’s what I've found with pretty much everyone I know who's experienced healing and other significant events their lives.

The Expanded Wheel of Life I refer to is shared in the link below.

The dentist office is a scary place for most people I know. It’s even worse for survivors of sexual abuse. Here is some insight for both survivors, and professionals who serve them, so we can create a feeling of safety in the dentist chair.

The Power of the Woobie

We don’t really know the power of stuffed animals and blankets when we first give them to our babies, but as babies are developing they are developing attachment to the objects around them and these woobies become much more than objects to babies. They’re comfort within that last a lifetime.

Experiences are traumatic if it hurts enough, even if it’s not considered trauma.