Stop Chasing Happiness—Start Living It
Is Your ‘Happy’ Living Someone Else’s Life?
For too long, my "Happy" was shaped by what I thought others expected of me. I spent years chasing a version of happiness that wasn’t even mine. Eventually, I realized it was time for my Happy to come home.
It’s not that others intended to make me feel this way, but somewhere along the way, I developed a deep sense of shame.
I craved inclusion and belonging so much that it became a part of my core.
If you've ever felt like your happiness depended on the approval of others, you’ll understand how powerful that need can be.
Living a ‘Happy’ That Wasn’t Mine
I carried that feeling of abandonment for decades, always chasing something I thought would finally make me feel whole. But the truth was, the wholeness I was after .
The moment I started really cherishing myself—my current self, my inner child, and my future self—everything changed.
I used to believe that what other people had or did (what they looked like, opportunities they had) was the key to happiness. But in time, I realized those things were just fleeting.
The one constant, the one relationship that truly mattered, was the one I had with myself.
The Power of Self-Awareness
When old feelings of desperation or abandonment come to the surface, I handle them much differently now. Instead of letting them consume me, I’ve learned to pause.
Self-awareness is key.
What is going on inside of myself?
Rather than getting lost in my thoughts, I tune into what my body and my inner self are telling me. They guide me to what my authentic self truly wants.
For years, I chased love and approval. I even entered a loveless marriage, thinking it would fill the void. But love didn’t come until I was 49. It wasn’t until then that I realized I had spent so long searching for something that really didn’t align with who I was. It wasn't even something I wanted in the first place.
Have you ever found yourself going after something, only to realize later it wasn’t what your heart truly wanted?
The Unconscious Rejection
When my love passed away in 2018, the old feelings of desperation came flooding back.
I was alone again.
But this time, I had the tools to really face those emotions. Instead of running from them or trying to suppress them or being consumed by them, I encouraged my mind, my unconscious mind to really, really fix, resolve that tension that I had carried for so long.
Looking back to my 20s, I wasn’t really interested in the relationships I was chasing.
Without realizing it, I was pushing them away. But at the same time, my survivor brain was feeling rejected. But the truth was, I wasn’t being rejected—I was the one rejecting those relationships unconsciously because they didn’t match what I truly wanted.
Bringing ‘Happy’ Home
Now, decades later, I’m healed, and I choose what I want, and it’s different. My choices are peaceful and aligned with my authentic self.
I consciously decide who I spend time with, who I date, who I don’t date, and what I expect for myself.
I’m no longer chasing after something outside of myself.
My Happy is home, and I cherish myself in all that I do.
It's a feeling that's light and airy and full of warmth!
Whose Life Are You Living?
So, ask yourself: Is your Happy truly yours, or has it been shaped by the expectations of others, or what you even think others expect from you?
If your happiness feels distant, what might be standing in the way of bringing it home?
Discovering what’s true for me and living in alignment with what is authentically me changed everything. Without that, I would still be living someone else’s life.
The question I leave you with is this: Whose life are you living?
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Ready to Bring Your Happy Home?
If you’ve been living a life shaped by others’ expectations or chasing happiness that feels just out of reach, it’s time to reconnect with your true self. Start the journey of discovering what you truly want and deserve.
And if you'd like, let’s work together to uncover your authentic self and bring your Happy home.
Whether it’s through self-awareness, inner exploration, or making conscious choices about the life you want, you don’t have to do it alone.
So if you're ready to live the life that's truly yours, connect with me and let's start this transformation together.
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