Uniquely You
Fitting In Is An Illusion
If everyone is unique, how can any of us truly "fit in"?
No matter how hard we try, we can never perfectly fit everywhere.
We all adjust ourselves in different ways to fit into what's considered acceptable—whether through fashion, the way we communicate, what we do, where we go, how we earn a living, or how we act as children, parents, friends, and beyond.
We bend ourselves to fit in, but nobody—absolutely nobody—has the exact same experiences.
Not identical twins.
What about conjoined twins?
Nope, still unique!
I always giggle when I see videos of conjoined twins arguing about what happened, each saying adamantly: “I know how it happened, I was there!” But even though physically they were there together, they didn’t share the experience the same way because they each have their own brains. Which means they each had their own perception of what happened.
Each of us experiences life from our own perspective. We see, hear, and feel everything from inside ourselves.
That's why I’m not a fan of the saying, “You’re unique, just like everybody else.”
To me, that phrase just waters down the value of being unique.
It makes us feel unimportant, like being special doesn’t really mean anything.
Instead of celebrating our uniqueness, that phrase feels like a warning: “Don’t expect everyone to like you.”
But I think it’s more than that. I believe we need to remove the idea that we should measure ourselves by the same standards or try to fit into certain boxes.
So, if we're all beautifully unique, why do we ever think we can fit in when "fitting in" is just an illusion?
Who even makes these "fitting in" rules?
Who decides what hair color is okay, what we should wear, how we should talk, what we should believe, or how much we should earn?
And more importantly—why do we let them?
Why do we let other people create rules and then twist ourselves into knots trying to conform?
Now imagine for a moment that there were no rules.
No expectations of how you’re supposed to fit in.
Imagine the freedom of living fully, without worrying about whether you’re doing it right.
For me, that feels incredibly liberating. No fear of judgment. No need to compare yourself to others.
I invite you to discover what truly makes you unique by letting go of the parts of yourself that you’ve adopted just to be liked, accepted, or included. Let your real thoughts, opinions, and beliefs shine through.
It’s an amazing place to be when you release the weight of expectations. Then, we can truly explore what makes everyone around us unique and stop chasing the impossible idea of fitting in—because in reality, no one ever does.
Fitting in isn’t real, and once we accept that, we can finally embrace who we are.
If you’re interested, reach out at the link below and I’ll help you sort through all that you’re carrying and help you rid yourself of the thoughts, emotions, feelings, and beliefs that you don’t need anymore!
Let’s Free Your Unique You!
